This morning we have our next installment in the Dementia Letters Project from Mindy. Thank you Mindy
Thank you for joining us, here on earth. I know it’s a hard place to be; people often want you to go away—you’re simply misunderstood. I’m accepting of your company. You’re here for a reason, right?
Your presence has changed my life. You’ve changed my brain, although, you haven’t entered it (yet?).
I know you through many sources. Nana was a host for you before she died in 2012. There were times when, together, you laughed, cried, giggled, snorted, screamed—and took your clothes off in public. She always did prefer nudity. My relationship with Nana, once you were in her life, was more unique and explorative. Greater love and understanding grew as I filled in, accepted, and decorated her “blanks”.
Nearly every day, I meet your hosts. They’re as kind and patient with you as they can be.
Dementia, I know you’re here to teach us something and I have a few ideas of what that is. You’re teaching us to question our huge egos and our contrived notion of “reality”. Patience, empathy, flexibility, mindfulness, spirituality, radical acceptance, present moment awareness and pure love …. that’s what you’re aiming for, right?
When you come around, our worlds turn upside down. All we can do is throw our hands in the air, scream, and liberate ourselves—hopefully joining hands with one another.
I thank you because you took away a lot of beliefs that weren’t serving me. You’ve given me an even more vast world to explore. I can’t imagine my life without you.